When I first read this writing prompt a few weeks back, I actually got my desk clutter organized, in hopes of showing off my office space.
Describe your “Thinking Space- What do you do, or where do you go when you need to sort through thoughts (maybe you go on a walk, listen to music, or take a hot bath).
Negative Thought Creep
Turns out, this week was hard and this morphed my writing into how to cope. Here are just a few of the thoughts that popped into my mind this week.
- The work I do has no impact.
- I can be more than this.
I could go on here but as you can imagine, those two are already a full plate.
Thoughts ≠ Facts
Despite the sea of up and down emotions, the important thing to remember is: thoughts do not equal facts. There has been a lot written on using mindfulness to work with negative emotions, which I’m no expert on, but I’d like to share what’s helped me.
Be a friend to yourself
- Don’t beat yourself up for thinking negatively. It’s allowed and it’s okay.
- But remember, you don’t have to keep it going all day. Step outside of your head. It’s important to allow yourself to feel upset, annoyed, sad, frustrated. These are true legitimate feelings. Once you’ve given yourself time to feel and think through this, it’s also okay to then move onto something else.
My “Letting Go” Space
- Go for a walk.
- If I’m at work, I love to ask a trusted co-worker to grab a coffee. Sometimes, I’ll be honest and say, “even if you don’t want a drink, I could really use the company.”
- Foam roll, stretch, do a few air squats, get your heart beating if you can!
- If I’m at home, nothing beats a hot shower.
- I like to hide away on a couch at the office, or in a ball at my house, ideally with a warm drink.
- Routine as usual. I can’t tell you how many times I have wanted to NOT go to the gym after work (my usual routine) because of a rough day. While I cut myself some slack if I am legitimately tired or weak, I aim to not fall into this trap. Most times, I always feel better after sticking to my typical schedule and habits.
- Table it for later. Heavy emotions can take a lot of focus. You might be better served saving questions like “what am I doing with my life” for after a nice breather- when you have some calm and a fresh perspective.